Kids typically do not remember the things you bought them when they grow up. They tend to remember the fun times & memories together. At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child's success is the positive involvement of the parents.
1] Notice how you go about your day, pause & breathe & consciously release what is not working.
Do you rush through most things frequently thinking of the things to be done or how well or not well everything before went? Most parents are juggling much. If you notice yourself breathing either very shallow or fast, I invite you to slow down & choose mindful breathing. This will open space to stop rushing & instead be calm.
As children, we naturally learned abdominal breathing. Somehow, we seem to forget that as we go through our life experiences & become adults. Not only will conscious breathing & being in this moment help you, you will also be a great model for your children on using "pause and breathe" as ways to help redirect & prevent meltdowns.
Do consciously breathe also to release any tension, stress or tightness you may feel. Also choose to release any perfectionism or control that things should go a certain way.
Thought Invokers are questions to reflect on & that often bring insight:
A thought invoker to consider: What can open up for you when you let go worrying & trying to be & do it all perfectly?
2] Acknowledge all you are grateful for including people, events, successes, learning, opportunities and things regularly. When you develop the habit of appreciating people, events, & things more on a daily basis, you will notice an increased sense of joy!.
Practice appreciating & celebrating small joys & victories even with your children. They will begin appreciating more instead of taking things for granted.
What you appreciate, appreciates!
3) Identify & write your vision and intention[s] for the year and also 3-5 years.
Then take time to identify 3-4 daily practices that will support you fulfill your intentions and vision. It can be short & crisp OR if have more time and wish to, then take the time to be more descriptive. Then allow yourself to feel the emotions you feel as though you have already received this vision. You will be inspired by the emotions of gratitude and joy on fulfilling your desired vision. Listen to your intuition and inner wisdom guidance and take small steps everyday towards your vision!
Always use wise judgement & modify based on feedback. You know yourself and your situation best. You may choose to share with your spouse /partner, a friend or coach for support.
4] Meet with other Moms with the intention to share, learn from each other, support and celebrate each other (physically or even virtually). There is significant research indicating that women feel a decrease in their stress levels when they connect, share and learn from others like them.
Take time to build friendships that nurture you and vice versa!
5) Take time out for at least one practice that helps you be in observer mode & also nurtures you physically, emotionally and spiritually. This can help you release old limiting patterns & get you out of habitually being in reactive mode. [which often happens to Moms / Dad / or frankly anyone who gets stressed!].
What one-two activities emotionally & /or spiritually fulfill you?
Some activities people find valuable: Yoga, Meditative walk, Running, Swimming, Gardening, Art, Craft Tai Chi, etc
6) Taking care of yourself is not just important, it's vital!
Take at least 10 minutes [and if possible more] for yourself to engage in something you love and which gives you joy and where you forget time.
What's possible for you & your family when you take time to invest in you?
What's an activity that makes you feel you are in your zone?
Remember the airplane example-we are reminded to first put our own oxygen mask then put on the mask for others including our children. After all, what good can we do for others if we aren't around?
7) You don't have to do it alone!
Empower yourself with the support of a coach who listens for and calls forth your brilliance and natural gifts and abilities!
Find a coach you resonate with & move forward on your desired results now!
Working with a Coach is different from working with a therapist, consultant or even a Mentor. A coach is also different from a friend who listens and also hopes & wants you to listen to them and support them.
Coaching is focused on enhancing the quality of work and life and is a process for transformation & growth.
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